Looking back before having my children, appearance was pretty important to me. I wouldn’t leave the house without a full face of makeup, wearing some fancy outfit with clean hair and it styled nicely. I wanted people to know that I made an effort and I always looked my best.
I’d take around half an hour deciding on an outfit each morning and posing in front of the mirror. My hair and make-up would’ve taken me a couple of hours to achieve the perfect look.
Since having children, my appearance has slipped. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m older and I’m not worried about what anyone thinks of me.
Or is it because I’m too tired to actually give two sh*ts?
Either way, my image has gone from a stylish, well groomed teen to a i-don’t-care-what-the-hell-i-look-like-mum. Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy prettying myself up and it gives me so much confidence.
But 9 times out of 10, I won’t make an effort at all.
My life consists of:
- Keeping house tidy
- School runs
- Washing a sh*t ton of clothes
- Keeping children alive
In my head, I don’t feel the need to look presentable each and every day. Alfie thinks and says I’m beautiful, Holly probably wouldn’t even notice and Rob, well, I’m sure he does notice occasionally.
You do, subconsciously, lose a lot of self confidence after having a baby. I didn’t even realise I had lost self confidence until I tried wearing a bra once. I even dread going swimming due to my lopsided breasts all thanks to Holly and her preferred left boob.
Sometimes I wonder how these super-mums on the school runs find time to look so damn great. The last thing on my mind during the morning rush is to make myself look presentable.
I could wake up earlier, I hear you say?
Pah! With Holly night feeding 3-4 times during the night still, I have just enough energy to get out of bed.
Since becoming older, appearance is one of those things that I spend less and less time worrying over. Throw two kids into the mix and I resemble a 18 year old doing the ‘walk of shame’ each morning.
There comes a lot of judgement when it comes to mums who don’t maintain their appearance – “Oh god, I wonder what state her house looks like!” .. “She isn’t teaching her children the importance of looking presentable”. OK, I get it. Ever thought perhaps us mums who don’t make an effort are putting more effort into making our children presentable?
There will be times when I like to put on make-up, do my hair and wear a super stylish outfit.. But, PLOT TWIST – it doesn’t make me a better mum, nor does it change the way my fiance sees me.
I think every once in a while, it’s healthy for us mums to make an effort for ourselves, it can make us feel better and change the bags under our eyes into designer ones.
If my week consists of school runs, tidying the house and keeping the kids alive – you’ll find me with a clean face, 3 day old hair and possibly the same t-shirt I’ve worn for over 2 days. #DontJudge
If you’re a mum – do you feel appearance is still important? Or have you given up making an effort after having children?