If there is one thing I could think of that I cannot stand due to being a parent, it’s sleep deprivation (or lack of sleep – let’s be real).
I absolutely love my sleep, and I’m a grumpy cow if I don’t get enough of it. I own more pyjamas than I do clothes and I’m forever day-dreaming of when I’ll be going to bed on an evening.
Holly is still not sleeping through the night, she is now six months old and as you can imagine, I’m always dreading the is she sleeping through yet? question.
Not only that, but Alfie has started waking up too. Not necessarily throughout the night, but the evenings are at least 5-6 times. I’m scared mummy – arghhh I get it, I really do, but not at 9pm when Holly has just drifted off to sleep and I’m begging for him to go back to bed just so I can have 10 minutes of peace to myself.
But it doesn’t end there.
5:00pm – Dinner
5:10pm – Feed Holly
6:00pm – Bath time
6:25pm – Feed Holly
7:00pm – Bed time for Alfie
7:30pm – Mummy can I have a milkshake?
8:00pm – Holly is finally asleep after whinging for an hour
8:10pm – Mummy, can you come here?
8:15pm – Perfect timing for a long, thoughtful chat with child
8:40pm – That took longer than expected… Holly wakes up.
9:00pm – Alfie comes downstairs
9:05pm – Take Alfie back to bed
9:20pm – Alfie comes downstairs
9:27pm – Take Alfie back to bed
9:40pm – Holly is asleep, take Holly to bed
10:00pm – I’m scared mummy..
10:05pm – Cuddle Alfie to sleep
10:30pm – Holly wakes up, feed Holly
So, I’d assume that is a clear enough example of my current evenings. Alfie did wake up at 2:30am this morning because he was too scared to go to the toilet on his own. Sigh.
It’s such an undying issue when you have more than one child, just recently I’ve had thoughts of ‘is this how it is with twins?’ one goes to sleep, the other one wakes up.
You always assume when children reach a certain age, they’re over the sleep rebellion stage – but for me it never really ended. Yes, Alfie did sleep through the night from a very early stage, but it went downhill from 10 months.
He would wake every couple of hours religiously every single night and climb into my bed. This came to an end when he turned 3 and started settling again.
One thing I know for sure this second time round is I will be getting Holly into a routine when she stops night feeds. A bed time routine isn’t something I introduced to Alfie until he started school.
It was a never ending battle at bed time and I would lay with him for over 2 hours every evening just so he could fall asleep. Not forgetting the 2 hours rocking him to sleep at 11 months old.
Besides all of that – I was used to having Alfie who slept through the night from a very young age – with Holly at 6 months old still waking at least 2 times a night for a feed, it is bloody hard and unexpected.
In the conclusion in all of this – I don’t think I will have a disrupted sleep until both of my children are 20 years old and moved out of home.
But it’s worth every second.